Rita's Blog

May 15, 2012

Observe Proper Work-Life Balance!

“Work, love and play are the great balance wheels of man’s being.”

- Orison Swett Marden

May 6, 2011

Marriage and a Career

“I’ve yet to hear a man ask for advice on how to balance marriage and a career.” Gloria Steinem, founder of Ms. Magazine.

Category: Life Design

April 6, 2011

Work-Life Balance

“Many people whose lives are not frantic suffer from ‘stress envy’. They’ve accepted a new definition of the good life: It’s not the quality of life, it’s the quantity. Success is measured by how much you can fit in.”

-Martin Hayward

Do you feel like a hamster on a wheel?  Running fast but getting nowhere?  Do you fall into bed exhausted each night feeling like you haven’t even touched your “to do” list?

Well, you aren’t alone!  In a recent survey, SHRM, the Society for Human Resource Managers, found that 89% of 1043 Americans polled believed that Work/Life Balance is a problem in the U.S.  54% called it a “significant” problem.

Additional findings show that because of the recent economic conditions, some people are experiencing increased demands in their jobs.  This has led to a loss in time with their families and a downturn in personal time.

People are being asked to do more with less and the strain is clearly showing.  Success in life is all about quality, not about the amount of “stuff” you own or the number of appointments you can fit into a 24 hour time slot.

What can you do if you are feeling overwhelmed and over worked?  The Four Keys that I use with my Executive Coaching clients are:

1.   Reflect-  This seems like counter-intuitive advice but it really works.  Take just a little bit of time off.  Get away and with your computer or journal in hand, spend some quality down time reflecting on what is REALLY important in your life.

2.  Plan-  Make a plan to get more of what is important in your life.  Choose the area that is the most “out of whack” first and identify the 3 first steps you will take to get it back in shape.

3.  Act-  Do it!  Act on the plan!  You will feel so empowered to take that first step.

4.  Reflect again… what are the next 3 steps that you want to take to get things back in balance?  Revise your plan to accomplish those next steps to success.  This starts the process all over again.

I always say, “Plan the Work and Work the Plan!”  You will be glad that you did.

Of course, you might explore hiring a professional business coach to assist you with getting your frantic life back into balance again. I know where you can find one!

Category: Life Design

March 30, 2011

From Procrastination to Productivity

“ Procrastination is the bad habit of putting off until the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday ” – Napolean Hill, American Author

One bad habit prevents becoming a success more than all of the other harmful habits combined: Procrastination.

Procrastination is simply putting really important things off, telling yourself that you will do it later or tomorrow. But the problem is that often “tomorrow” never happens.

Success comes from doing the really important things that are critical to obtaining results. We rarely procrastinate about the unimportant things!

We all suffer from procrastination at one time or another. We all get sucked into doing low priority tasks (like answering email or rearranging our desk) when we should be focusing our time on more important projects (like the budget forcast report for the department that you manage).

We engage in this bad habit when: (1) things are difficult; (2) the task involves things that are unpleasant; or (3) the task can lead to making a tough decision. Rather than stretch and grow, we hide our head in the sand and retreat to something easier, more fun, or mindless.

But, the original problem remains and NOW MAY BE BIGGER because we did not take care of it when we had the prime opportunity. Procrastination creates a vicious cycle of events and often leads to more procrastination.

What’s a good, well-intentioned executive to do?

Steps you can take to tame the procrastination monster:

(1) Admit when you are procrastinating.
(2) Determine why you are procrastinating (Does it involve an complex task? Does it feel overwhelming?)
(3) Do a “micro-action”- a baby step to get you moving in the direction of completing the task. Do you procrasitnate about exercising? Put your exercise clothes next to your bed (fireman style) so you can get up and jump into them in the morning.
(4) Do a small portion of the task (a chunk) that will get you moving in the right direction.
(5) Once you get moving- keep moving!
(6) Reward yourself for a job well done. You deserve it!

Procrastination is really a bad habit that we want to change. Make a commitment to take action for 21 days, the length of time it takes to create your new habit- moving forward. Your stress levels will decrease. You will be focused and clear-thinking because you have minimized your distractions.

There now, aren’t you glad that you took that first step toward productivity!

Category: It's About Time!

March 23, 2011

Follow Your Passion

“If you follow your bliss, doors will open for you that would not have opened for anyone else.”  - Joseph Campbell

During a recent speaking engagement  a 30-something year old man in the audience rasised his hand and asked, “Do you think passion is important for business leaders?”

My response was, “I think it is the most important ingrediant for success.  You can be intelligent and have great skills as a leader, but without true passion you don’t really reach the zenith.  Without true passion you settle for mediocrity.”

Chances are you are a passionate person.  People who become leaders usually do so because of their enthusiasm for their work, their mission,  for life itself.  We’ve all been around those people.  The air around them seems to crackle with the energy that their excitement radiates.  Wouldn’t you like to be one of those charismatic and passionate  leaders?

Passion drives your purpose.  It’s an internal motivation that keeps you going even when there’s no tangible reward in sight and no reason to stay the course.  It’s a fire that burns despite others’ attempts to extinguish it.

Reflect on the steps you can take to live your passion and then TAKE ACTION:
Be passionate about the work you do.
Have genuine concern for the people you lead.
Express your enthusiasm for what you do both in your work life and your personal life.
Keep external forces from robbing you of your passion.
Continue to strive to make a difference in the world.
Encourage others to live their passion, too.

Live your passion!  Share it with others every chance you get.  I make it a point to mentor and coach others to find their passion and, as Joseph Campbell states,  follow their “bliss”.  You wil feel a great sense of fulfillment and happiness in life and work.

Category: It's About Time!
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